Hi there.

I’m T.

I’m 40 years old, and if you’re here, there’s a good chance you’ve also spent a significant portion of your life wondering why the "standard operating manual" for adulthood didn't seem to work for you.

For a long time, I thought I was just "bad at being a person." Then, at 39, I received my late-diagnosis of AuDHD. Suddenly, thirty-nine years of internal friction, hyperfocus, and sensory overload finally had a name. It wasn't a character flaw, it was a different operating system.

The Turning Point

My journey into understanding my brain really accelerated at 35. After having my baby, the "normal" postpartum period didn’t quite end. I developed intense post-pregnancy anxiety, fueled by the seismic shifts in my hormones. Along with the mental health hurdles, my body started sending signals too, specifically in the form of auto-immune issues like sebaceous dermatitis and eczema, another gift from the hormone-change lottery.

Now, as I enter the early stages of perimenopause, the stakes have shifted again. If you’ve ever felt like your hormones and your neurodivergence are having a boxing match inside your head while you're just trying to remember where you put your keys, I see you.

Why This Space Exists

I created this corner of the internet for a few simple reasons:

• To De-mystify the "Invisible". Many of us are struggling with things we can’t see: hormonal shifts, neurodivergence, and anxiety, that impact every second of our day. I want to help you understand why these things are happening.
• To Kill the Shame. Being a wife, a mom, and a woman in her 40s is hard enough without the added pressure of neurotypical expectations.
• To Build a Safe Harbour. If you already know you have these conditions, I want this to be a place where you don't have to explain yourself. You aren't "too much," and you aren't "not enough." You’re just right.

What You Can Expect

I don't have all the answers. I'm still figuring out how to navigate a sensory-friendly grocery trip while managing a "doom pile" at home. But what I do have is honesty, a bit of dark humour, and a lot of empathy.

Whether you're here for the "aha!" moments of a late-diagnosis, tips for managing the sensory nightmare of perimenopause, or just to feel less alone in the chaos, I'm so glad you found your way here!

Love, T xx